-How does a relationship survive through all of the social media stimulation?
As a person who is used to being single, I have just recently engaged in a relationship and agreed to assume the role of “boyfriend”. I did this because I love the girl for many reasons. She has her looks, personality, creative tendencies and ambition. That doesn’t mean I don’t have love for plenty of my other friends for the same reasons, but the only thing that separates them is the romantic part of the relationship. The passion is high and the euphoria sparked by a simple kiss is as real as it gets. My brain is set off running with just a few of those.. But still, only about 2 hours after hanging out with her, I still find myself yearning for something “else”.
I am sitting there thinking about all of these things and as soon as I stop and pop out of my sub-conscious, I realize that I have been scrolling through Instagram through this entire multi-tasking-brainstorm. In that time I must have passed over 100 pretty girls either partying, modeling, being badass or simply enjoying life. In my conscious, they are just beautiful girls for me to admire through my phone, but in the peripheral they are like cheerleaders rooting me on to be single again.
I mean, before the internet and social media, I think the intention was a little more deliberate when it came to seeking the attention of other women. Now, our thumbs tap a like on their photos almost compulsively. It’s like we don’t even have a choice but to cheat! Our brains have become compromised! A like here.. a comment there.. A story reply which leads to a DM. Where does it end? When does it become cause to end the relationship?
Men used to look at porn which held it’s ground in the fictional realm for the most part.. But now, it is engaging more and more with our everyday reality.
So, my question is this: How does a man deal with these daily temptations at such a fast and frequent rate? And on the flip-side, how does the girl dating the man compete with it? Are relationships like Snapchats and IG stories now.. here today and gone tomorrow? Anyways my boyfriend-girlfriend situation lasted just over a week and my brain thinks it has run its course.. maybe lasted a little too long even. My thumbs have spoken and they want to swipe, like, comment and DM guilt free. Can you blame me?